3 Things You Can Do To Get The Most Out Of Therapy
Getting counseling when you are having a hard time is a very wise choice. Many people have had excellent results from seeing a counselor regularly. If you have never seen a therapist before, you might be nervous about what to expect with therapy. Here are some things you should do to ensure that you are getting the best results possible.
1. Find The Right Therapist For You
Counseling is not a one-size-fits-all sort of thing. There are therapists that will focus on certain things, and there will be others that have different methods of treatment. One of the biggest mistakes that people make is they go to one therapist that doesn't fit their needs, so they give up on counseling completely. You may need to shop around before you find the right counselor for you. It may even take a couple sessions with multiple therapists until you find the right one. That is totally normal, and don't give up hope. With time and patience, you can find the right person who has the right method and the right style to fit your communication needs and can give you the results you need.
2. Go Before It Becomes Too Bad
Another mistake that people make is waiting until the problem is huge before seeking help. If you are struggling in your marriage, go to the therapist while the relationship can still be salvaged. Don't go to therapy only as a "last resort." Counselors aren't miracle workers, they can't fix something that is severely broken and has no desire to be fixed. Instead, once you start seeing deterioration in yourself or your relationship, seek help.
3. Keep Notes
Change will begin to happen, and it won't happen by chance. There will be things that you are doing to help facilitate that change. If you want to work toward long-term healing, you need to determine what it is that made those changes. If you just let things happen to you, without analyzing why they happened, you will never have lasting change. For instance, if when you started doing something differently, like waking up and immediately saying affirmations, you noticed changes, write it down. That way, when things start going south again, you know how to fix it. In addition, if you noticed things that you are doing that made things worse, write it down. That way you won't do it again.
By doing these things, you can get the most out of your therapy.