3 Tips For Your First Trip To The Sex Therapist
Sex is a big part of the human experience, and it can be painful or awkward for you if your sex life is not what you want it to be. If you are experiencing problems in the bedroom, or are not connecting very well with your partner, it might be time to talk to a sex therapist. If you want to ensure that your first session goes smoothly, here are some tips to keep in mind.
It's OK To Be Nervous
Sex is a subject that feels taboo to talk about in many different settings, so talking about it with a total stranger can certainly be nerve wracking. You should know before going in that, no matter what your problem is, there's likely a good chance your sex therapist has already assisted someone else with the same problem. Sex therapists who have been in business for a while have likely seen and heard it all before, so there's no reason to be feeling nervous about discussing this subject.
You Don't Have To Share It All Right Away
Many sex therapists prefer to use the first session as a getting to know you type of deal. They'll ask about your sexual history with your current partner, but might also ask some personal questions that don't have anything to do with sex. You can talk about your family life, your parents and other subjects without having to jump right into the sex stuff. If you are still feeling nervous or embarrassed about your specific issue, there's no problem with waiting until the second appointment before you really get into it. Hopefully by then you will feel more comfortable with your therapist and will be able to speak freely.
Give Your Partner A Heads-Up If Needed
If you are talking to a sex therapist with your partner in the room, you might want to talk to them briefly before you get to the appointment. For example, if there is something specific your partner does (or does not do) in the bedroom that bothers you, tell them yourself before the appointment. You might still need the therapist to work out the problem, but the point is, you don't want your partner to feel blindsided by whatever your complaint is. Therapy is ultimately about becoming more comfortable with who you are and it's hard to get comfortable if you feel like your partner is throwing you under the bus.
Contact a sex therapist today for more information. Companies like Healthy Counsel can help you with your questions.